|Looking for a relationship|
(My Birthday was 3 months ago) Capricorn
Langley, BC, Canada
Seeking SugarBaby 18 - 40
I know this is a SD sight but not all the women on here want strictly men to pay them for sex or their time. I know that some of you want a relationship, and are here because you want a relationship with someone going somewhere in life and your more likely to find that kind of man here.
On the flip side I am more likely to find someone sexy and attractive, and motivated, that knows how to take care of themselves here.
My story. I am 42. I was a playboy between the ages of 18 to 26. Lived in the bar scene and was very good at it. I am very good looking but probably it was my confidence and intelligence that had me do so well with women. I know how to play the game in the bar, hot women want a challenge and I could provide that, they get tired of guys coming up and telling them they are hot. You cannot believe how rude I could be and have the hottest women chasing me because of it. It got so boring. Also I knew that often the hottest women did not get hit on as much as they should because many men were afraid to try because they might get shot down, I was never afraid. My friends would bug me that I always got so many women, but I got shot down by women too, just cause I was not afraid, and because I was so obnoxious after I got past about 10 drinks, I just did not care after years in the bar. 27 to 35 I hardly dated and quit the bar scene, concentrated on life.
At 36 I decided to start looking for the one. How do you know if someone is THE ONE. I am a bit of a romantic at heart and it is possible that there is one SOUL MATE out there for all of us, but I doubt it. I would really like to believe it, it is a nice notion that there is that one person that we are meant to be with and that everything will just fall into place when we meet them, but what if that one right person got hit by a bus crossing the street today? Then what? If that was our soul mate then are we now destined to be alone? or does God create us another soul mate? It does not make sense. I think it is more likely that there are 10, 100, 1000, 10000 right people for us and that we could really build something special with one of them, but in a world of billions it is tough to find them, and it is about timing and effort too.
Timing, well what if that person that is right for you is married, or dating and then when they are single you are not? What if they are around the world and you never meet them.
Effort, When I went back to dating at 36 it was kind of like work. I met some really fun women that were attractive and smart, but I asked myself this question. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE LOOKING ACROSS THE TABLE AT THEM IN 20 YEARS, and if the answer was no I cut it off. I was searching for the one and I did not want to waste time. I know, back to the soul mate thing, and destiny I have heard it said that when you stop trying that is when the right person will come along. Of course this can happen, but there are very few examples in life where LITTLE EFFORT EQUALS GREAT RESULTS . I could sit at home and order pizza and hope the delivery person was a woman who happened to be my soul mate but I chose to work at it.
I eventually met a Chinese lady that was very many of the things I was looking for, smart, classy, beautiful on the inside and out--and she was fun. When I asked myself that question about if I would want to be sitting across a table from her in 20 years, I thought, YEAH I THINK I MIGHT. So we dated for a year and then became a couple for another 2 years, but ultimately it ended. She is wonderful but I kept hoping for a physical spark that was absent from the beginning but because we were such good friends I kept hoping it would come, but it never did for me.
We officially split in March of 2008 and because I have been travelling for my business for the last 2.5 years I have had no chance to date.
What I'm Looking For
I am not looking for the typical SD/SB relationship--an exchange of money or gifts for time or physical encounters.
Scenario 1: Ideally you come visit me or I come visit you and we decided that we want to try to see if a relationship might work. We become fabulous friends and lovers and you help me build my business, while possibly I help you pursure your own dreams and goals. We fall madly love, get married and have 2.6 beautiful children together.
Scenario 2: We meet and spend some time together and have some fun but part company friends, 2 days or 2 years after meeting.
Scenario 3: We just become good freinds with no expectations of sex or money involved.
Here is what I am looking for:
What I want is simple...I want a best friend that I have lots in common with who I hopefully have a good sex life with. I have never really believed in opposites attract. If we do not like any of the same things how can we have great conversation? How can we truly enjoy sharing time together? I want more than a physical attraction.
Dating can be almost tedious but if you don't put yourself out there and your just depending on luck and destiny. The romantic in me could hope it helps me find 'the one' but I do not want to depend on it.
I am attractive. I can look equally good in a suit or a pair of shorts.
I am well aware that looks only get one so far.
I am self aware and I am always looking to grow and learn from anyone and everyone. I am passionate, compassionate, and kind. How we treat others is important. Kindness "IS" important.
I love life and I am very positive and optimistic.
I enjoy conversation. I am interested in life in general and specifically, spirituality, philosophy, psychology, and more. I love conversation from the silly to the deep. I appreciate people who have given life a little thought.
I can be child like, a bit of a bad boy with an edge, or a serious business man, depending on the circumstance.
I am well spoken and very quick minded
(I am also on sale for 50% off this week) I hate reading my profile--it feels stale--had to had lighten it up.
You are very attractive, slim, petite, fit, or athletic. You are classy and feminine, but still you have a mind and are not afraid to use it.
You are passionate and compassionate. You can be religious but not a fanatic.
You are positive and grateful about what life has offered you. You expect the best from life.
If you are into fitness and are business oriented in addition to the above that is all the better, but neither is a deal breaker...
I am ready to build a life with one person after being a play-boy most of my life. Life is a wonderful mystery and I am looking for my best friend and passionate lover to explore it.
You know life is a wonderful journey, most of the time. There is something about seeing the smile of someone you care about, seeing life through their eyes, that just makes being alive that much better.