I am trying to upload a picture, but the system keeps telling me the pixel sixe of the photo is too big. I will try to see if I can get a photo up here. In the meantime, I can e-mail you photos, as my e-mail carrier will accept the pixel size. I am a 29 year old brunette with green eyes, 5"8", 128-140 lbs. who was born in New York. I grew up both in New York and in New Jersey. As far as personality goes, I am an overall relaxed and laid-back, easy-going, mellow sort of person who enjoys peace, however, if I am confronted about an issue that I feel is not right, I will be firm in my standpoint or decision and voice my ideas about it. I spend my time vending general merchandise via flea markets and ebay and have been doing this on and off since I lost my job in the World Trade Center. I also enjoy spending time with and am close to my parents and my sister. I used to have a dog who lived for 18 years and was like my baby, the light of my life. He died two years ago and it was very sad for me. I would like to get another dog again sometime in the future. Taking care of animals and donating from time to time to animal charities has always been important to me. Some of my hobbies include: traveling, reading, writing, photography, listening to music, dining out in restaurants, watching movies, going to the gym, shopping, and swimming. I also have an interest in publishing a few books someday.
What I'm Looking For
I am using this service, because it is hard often times to meet people in the city and I never did during my college years, as during that time, I was just focused on my studies. I am seeking a, college or higher, educated man who has a kind character, who is giving, warm, generous, and caring, not stingy, who is reasonably wealthy, and who is reasonably attractive. I am not looking for someone who is married and wants a fling, but rather, someone single who is open to a romantic relationship with the possibility of marriage. I admire very much the kind of relationship my mother and father have, and I share their beliefs. They have been married to and have lived with each other for over 40 years, and never once cheated on each other or were physically abusive. They each had their own professions which they found interesting. After some years, however, my mother quit her job once she gave birth to me and my sister, and has been a housewife for many years now, and my dad not only did not mind, but in fact he enjoyed, giving her money he made, which she, in addition to spending some of it, would put some of it into the stock market to try to grow it. Whenever he accompanies my mom and me somewhere, he always pays for both of us, be it meals, shopping, etc. and helps us out with any kind of situation. He is a true gentleman. I remember one time, my mom told him the story of how one day, when he was at work, we found this armchair in the street in the garbage that I and her started carrying towards our apartment. It was heavy and we had to stop along the way several times. A guy walked past us and said:"You need a wagon". My mom answered him: "No, we need a man, but there aren't any". My dad smiled and said my mom answered him exactly the right way. My dad is the kind of person who would have stopped and helped someone to carry that armchair. As far as intimacy is concerned, I and my parents believe that some romantic intimacy is o.k. for dating, but that sex, complete intimacy, should be saved for marriage. When a man is willing to marry a woman, most often, it means he is willing to take a bigger risk and commitment, than being a boyfriend, where it is much easier to just walk away. When a man is willing to engage in this bigger risk and commitment which is also a legal commitment where his assets are at risk, it is a sign of a much deeper love on his part for the woman. It is then that a woman feels most cherished and complete and feels like the complete intimacy, the going all the way with sex, is most meaningful. At least it is the way I feel and my parents feel about this issue. To us, not only inner qualities, but physical beauty and respect for it is something precious, and as far as certain guys who call beautiful women "a dime a dozen" and say that the women should not be "golddiggers" and go after their money, but that they (the guys) can go after the beautiful women, we think those guys are: "Beautydigging Scrooges", and these kind of guys are not the kind I want. And if physical beauty is of such little value to them, "a dime a dozen", as they say, then why do they still choose to go after physically beautiful women and not physically ugly ones, as I have observed so often, time and time again? They are being hypocritical. There has been lots of talk about that cliche that it is the inside only that counts, not the outside, that it is shallow to consider the outside, but I believe that both count and that it is logically the outside most times that is the prerequisite, the stepping stone, or catalyst for the inner qualities to later be expressed, it is the initial physical attraction, what one first sees, which first draws one person to come to another and start talking and so it paves the way for other things and a relationship to later take place. If physical beauty had no importance, we would not have beauty salons and spas all over the country, because the truth is when you take care of yourself and strive to look good, you also feel good. Some may call it shallow, but that's the way it is. It is interesting how most often the people who criticize this and call it shallow are the ones who are not physically good looking themselves. Also, if physically ugly people happen to find love and be in good relationships, then all the best to them and good for them, I have nothing against it, I'm just trying to make the point that everyone has his or her own tastes, and one should not be offended and go off on a tirade on another person, if that other person tactfully but honestly chooses to be with someone they may find to be more attractive than the not so good looking person; someone may prefer this color hair to that, this facial shape and features to that, etc., etc., tastes are very subjective and individual for each individual person and everyone has a right to them. When I will be in my nineties, for example, I won't have any illusions like some women do, that I am still seventeen, and expect a guy to behold me physically the same way, so I would hope that another person could understand that, as it relates to them too. My dad once said regarding the complaints of some people about Anna Nicole Smith going after the money of that guy in the nineties she married: "Well, he doesn't have much else to offer." Too much of an age difference, though, I personally as well as my parents don't care for, I prefer an age difference of up to and not more than 10 years, between mates. Now, I know there are guys out there who may say: "Oh, well what if the guy is attractive, just like the woman is, how about the woman going and spending money on the guy". I believe it is fine for the woman to do that sometimes, I would enjoy giving a nice tie, shirt, or box of valentine chocolates that say: "For my man", for example, to a guy who was attractive to me not only physically but who emotionally cared for me as well. However, I believe, and also feel it to be in nature, that it is the man's role, more often times than it is the woman's to be the provider and it is the woman's role to be the appreciative recipient and to bask in the glow of the man adoring her beauty and charms. I read a quote once somewhere that said: "It is the woman who is the jewel, and the man who provides the setting for her to shine". When the guy starts being treated as the jewel more than the woman, it compromises the situation and nature, and things deteriorate. Now, if someone "golddigs" in a way that they get together with a person and marry them with the sole intention of taking all their money and then leaving that person, like I heard of a case in Spain where a woman did that to a guy, took all his money and ran off to be with another guy and then forbade him to come into the apartment he had gotten, now that, I and my parents agree is not good, and we felt sorry for the guy in Spain to whom that happened and felt the woman who did that did not have a good character. It is all in the degree of things that makes a difference, extremes are usually not good, moderation is the key. When there is love, warmth, caring, trust, honesty, and loyalty between two people, sharing comes naturally in a relationship, and it extends to all aspects of their life together, including money. True, in time, physical beauty will fade, but by that time, hopefully, two people will have the wonderful memories not only of the physical enjoyment they enjoyed over the years but also of all the emotional and inner qualities of each other and of times spent together and experiences shared, being there for each other in the bad times as well as the good, and the bond that was formed between them, such that they will want to keep continuing being with each other, hence the meaning of soulmates and true love that continues, near or far. Things are not always perfect, and problems can arise, but if they do, the love is strong enough to work through it in lasting relationships. Sometimes I feel like the kind of relationship my mother and father have doesn't exist anymore in the world or to a very rare degree, and that myself and my family are so old-fashioned that I will probably live the rest of my life as single with just my vending career and my dog which actually is what I have done thus far in my life. But I am always hopeful also, and open to the idea that the right man may one day come into my life, and that we will then be together.