Hi there! I've been down a few dead end roads when it comes to relationships with men my age. Not knowing what they want, where they're going, etc. And expecting me to remain idle while they figure this out. I'm smart, funny, attractive, kind, sincere, etc. I'm not afraid to be alone but who really wants to be? I'm not trying to stereo-type older men for being sugar-daddies, but it is after all what runs through many peoples minds when they see an older man with a younger woman. Well, that being said, people will believe whatever they want anyway, so why not just make myself happy and forget about what people think. Happiness: Well, for me, I really like the idea of being involved with an older gentleman mostly for the maturity level most are on. (not all) Someone who enjoys closeness, real intimacy, going out to dinner, conversation, sharing a part of their true selves that they can't share with anyone else for fear of judgment. Someone who is WITH me when they are with me, not have their mind on something else or their eyes on someone else. (I understand men are visually stimulated, but there's a time and place. And that time isn't when you're with someone you want to stay with you.)I don't want to be one of many. "Miss Right" right now is fine with me. With of course the possibility of something more. Which is why honesty and communication and respect should be something that is constant throughout the relationship. Knowing where we both are leaves us both the choice to continue or not, should the other person start to go in another direction. I need something more than just sex. Sex is everywhere and you can get it anywhere. After the experiences I've had with younger, insecure, controlling, untrustworthy men, I'd kinda like to have my time and space as well as the relationship. I'm a good woman, I enjoy what I do. I don't like being hounded about what, when, where, and why everytime I leave for the store or can't make it the phone. I'm too open and honest for that kind of treatment. Clearly for the fact that I would like to be respected in the same way. I'd rather the truth be painful (not that it has to be), but with trust and honesty, you're given the choice of what you can and cannot accept and are held responsible for your own happiness. I like that. I guess I could have just said, "No head-games". I like to work, work out, take long bubble-baths with a glass of wine, Percy Sledge or Al Greene in the Cd player and forget about the demands of life. I'm wound up when I have to be for work and I like to relax and enjoy life otherwise. I don't have a stressful job, so wound up for me means high energy. I'm not sure what else to say.
What I'm Looking For
NO drugs.... No alcohol abuse. I'm not here to kill time or to make life any more demanding than it is, especially from an emotionally draining relationship. I'm here to fulfill myself spiritually and grow. There's so much more to learn about love, life, relationships. I think someone older can help me with that.