It’s pretty safe to assume that some of the sugar daddy/ sugar baby relationships are between younger women and a sugar daddy who is married. After all, the man is likely older, successful and established in his career, and with enough resources to keep a mistress, AND probably a wife and family as well.
If the sugar baby is seeing her sugar daddy long enough, the holidays will arrive at some point, and at that time she will probably find herself being alone. Like my first sugar baby told me all these years ago: ‘The mistress is always alone’. She was right. After all, the man will have the obligation to spend holidays (Thanksgiving, New Year’s etc.) with family and loved ones. This will make the sugar baby feel left out, especially if she has developed feelings for the man. She might even start feeling depressed when she sees happy families walking around and by contrast she is left by herself. Even if the sugar daddy gives her a generous gift, that may not be enough to shake those holiday blues. As they say ‘Christmas is the worse day in the mistress calendar’.
Well, perhaps that would be a good time to reassess the nature of the relationship and develop some coping strategies. The sugar baby may need to reconsider the following facts: Sugar always starts as an arrangement, and is the epitome of no strings attached relationships. While it is human and unavoidable to develop close feelings after seeing someone for a few months or years, you have to develop the internal toughness and just tell yourself: ‘Hey remember, it is NSA after all’. Why take something that everyone agrees is NSA right from the start and turn it into something that is not supposed to be i.e. a loving committed relationship to the point where being apart during the holidays is painful?.
But if you insist, sugar baby, you may just need to find some distractions around the holidays such as:
1. Spending some ‘me’ time and contemplating
2. Spending time with people that count more in the long run than a sugar daddy , i.e. parents, siblings, family, and close friends, OR maybe even
3. Find another man, this time a sugar daddy who is single (there are plenty on the SugarDaddyForMe.com website for dating)
4. Demand that your SD gives you some really great sex, the day right before the holiday
And above all, listen to this piece of advice, from a married man: You can like us, you can love us even, but do remember who we are at the end of the day. In some cases, we are married with families, and with no plans to leave that family we worked so hard to build up, during our younger years.
About the Author
David Montrose is a married sugar daddy, blogger and author. He writes about his own holiday experiences with young sugar babies and likes to share his stories of a ‘mature and generous gentleman’. Be sure to check out his book “Sugar Daddy Diary” on Amazon.